We also fear, perhaps more than anything else, losing approval from others. In tribal times, being ejected from the safety of a group could have meant death. Fear should keep us alert and safe - like the beam from a lighthouse warning ships of submerged dangers.
But too much fear, like a super-beam of light blinding the ship's captain, can cause the loss of the very thing we feared losing.
The struggle is just so real, and the risks we take by falling in love are innumerable and terrifying.
The thing is, a breakup is really, really f*cking bad for your health.
We reject things on a daily basis -- we reject items we don't want, ideas we don't like and opportunities we don't see fit.
Rejection is as much a part of our world as is approval.
I can so clearly remember playing on my own, always the new girl, always craving acceptance!
They call it ‘breaking up’, ‘it not working out’, ‘not getting the job’, ‘the friendship growing apart’, ‘different priorities’, ‘a disagreement’, ‘they said NO’ etc.
In dating and relationships, ‘rejection’ is impossible to avoid because not It’s unavoidable and being able to say NO, to opt out of situations, to admit when something isn’t working, is part of the natural order of freeing yourself up to be available for a mutual relationship.
Rejection comes as one of the most brutal stakes to the heart because it deals a direct blow to our ego.
The ego is the inherent part of the self which holds intact our pride, esteem and self-worth.
True Story: Breakups are a bitch, and heartbreak is a bigger bitch than f*cking karma.