I remember hearing an interview on the radio with a Muslim, a few years ago. (In this article I will address only the Christian community.) What is the rationale behind the ruling?
As the interview began, the host asked the Muslim guest whether he was married. The radio host pressed home the point, saying that the guests first statement was a little misleading, wasnt it? Then, if I recall correctly, the radio host sensed his guests unease and changed the subject. Beyond any doubt, Islam is patriarchal, so a Muslim man must have final control in the relationship.
Allah is the one who controls the hearts and it is from He whom we should ask for a good spouse.
Perhaps the Quran itself does not honor women, married or not. The Quran For the historical and literary topical context of this next sura (chapter), please click here. Islam allegedly is the best and final religion for all humankind, and the Muslim man may convert his submissive wife.
Marriage in Islam and Muslim family The affection which Allah has created in the hearts of the two spouses is one of His great signs for the people of understanding.
Such people can look at this aspect of Allah's creation and be reminded of the greatness of Allah's work and power and the magnificent mercy Allah has placed in His creation And among His signs are that He created for you from your selves mates that you may attain calm unto them and He placed between you affection and compassion. ( Sura Ar-Rum: 21.) According to this, the relationship between husband and wife should be one of affection, compassion and mutual understanding.
(Hilariously, Aphrodite/Soumaya, along with all the other young women profiled, appears photographed in and a full face of makeup – which, of course, is what women wear in order to appear more beautiful to men.) In so doing, they ignore – I would argue, are made to ignore – the very essence of what such coverings in fact represent: The notion that a woman is nothing sexual object, and therefore must be kept hidden, just as, in the West, we hide our genitalia.
That this fact is not explained to these women and young girls is what has many feminists concerned, not only about Muslim women in general, but particularly, about converts, who are, as it were, handed Islam in small, attractive bites, sweetened artificially and served up on flowered plates.
Others speak of “finding themselves” after years of wild drink and drugs – a pattern similar to that found in male prison converts, who often are convinced by other Muslim inmates to seek salvation through Allah.