“My husband,” I replied after a while, snapping out of savouring my first-ever snorkelling session.She then asked me questions about our wedding and everything that had led to it. I later kicked myself for having misunderstood their questions as friendly banter.The problem is that in many Indian families, many may still believe love comes after marriage.This is of course due to the arranged marriage which is prevalent among many segments of Indian society regardless of geography.
Probably every woman in India has one story about having been subject to lecherous looks as she has walked down the street. The male gaze turns more brazen by several orders of magnitude.This being said, when most American [women] hear the words “I love you,” they take this very seriously.Due to mistake number one, she believes the man will do anything and everything in his power to create a long term commitment which will sooner than later evolve into marriage.In general, the people of India tend to marry within their community whether that community exists within India or those of Indian decent living in other countries.While arranged marriages are still common in India, love marriages have gained in popularity.
Through the last fifteen years of being involved in the Indian community and interacting with many non-Indian, Western,and white women who struggle with relationships and commitments with their Indian boyfriends, I share the top three mistakes that most of these women make while trying to overcome the challenges of acceptance from their Indian boyfriend or to-be's family.