EDITOR'S NOTE: He Said-She Said is a biweekly advice column for singles featuring a question from a reader with responses from a male and female point of view.If you've got a question about anything related to singleness or living the single life, please submit it to [email protected] (selected questions will be posted anonymously).But although I feel a passive acceptance of my lot as a “sinner”, I do know many whose situation is so unfair, I want to lob those hand grenades myself.How can my Church bar Suzanne, a friend whose husband spent the nights at his laptop, gambling away the family’s income?Women who have divorced are no longer caricatured as desperate cougars; nor is being a child of divorce an automatic reason to see a shrink. And yet, for some Catholics, the Cardinal’s words are nothing short of hand grenades that may explode next month – when the Synod of bishops meets at the Vatican – and shatter the stained-glass windows of the Church as they know it. Jesus was kind to prostitutes and the poverty-stricken, and preached that what we did to the least important among us, we did to Him.
Step into a church at the moment when the priest offers the body and blood of Christ to the faithful, and you’ll see men and women, heads bowed, cupping their face in their hands as if the vision of the lucky ones receiving bread and wine is too painful. I knew the rules, and decided unilaterally that I would ignore them and marry Edward anyway.I’ve read several passages in the Bible where our Lord Jesus Christ condemns marrying a divorcee.HE SAID: I have asked myself the same question over the years as I pursuing relationships with women who have been divorced; however you have already started down that road and face an even more difficult one.Sadly, some reports now have “Christian” marriages ending even more often than “non-believers.” (Malachi -16).What God intricately joins together physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, separated (or ripped apart) by man can leave a scarring only He can heal and maybe that’s why He is so stringent on the topic. These are some pretty harsh words which are probably debated on both sides by mature, educated and knowledgeable believers.
The code states that Catholics are not to be allowed to receive Holy Communion if they are under the penalty of excommunication or interdict, or obstinately persist in manifest grave sin (c. Canon 916 notes that as a rule, anyone who is conscious of grave sin may not celebrate Mass (in the case of a priest) or receive the Eucharist without previously having been to sacramental confession.