Is this what the Catholic church asks of an atheist who ends up with a Catholic?
I am uncomfortable engaging in a complex, long-term deception.
My liberal feminist mother couldn't take it and we switched to a progressive Methodist church instead, a return to her childhood religious roots.
While I don't feel like I had a particularly religious upbringing, I clearly did. I dumped the idea of a male God and instead prayed to the pagan concept of the Goddess for years.
As an adult, I'd place my hand on the outside of the plane while boarding and pray that the "sacred blood of our Lord Jesus Christ" would protect the plane and passengers -- and I believed with my whole heart that it would work (since I haven't been involved in a plane crash, I guess it did). I abandoned all thoughts of God in my twenties, until it became clear that I needed to be sober.
Recovery meetings are spiritual (not religious) and at that point I settled on a God-centric but non-Christian spirituality that worked perfectly for me. My husband's spirituality is absolutely not my concern.
I also wonder, if my boyfriend's interpretation of theology is correct, why the Catholic Church would ever sanction this kind of marriage under any circumstances. And it certainly doesn't have anything to do with helping out with your salvation, which is also his job as a spouse.
We've been dating for a year and a half, so we're at the point where we're trying to talk about points of conflicts between our religious beliefs to discern whether we can find a way to make this work out in the long term.Too often when our feelings get involved we are willing to compromise on things that shouldn’t be compromised. There are some wonderful men and women out there who have been divorced, some multiple times, who you may want to marry, but unless their marriage has been granted nullity by the Church, you can’t marry them and have it recognized as legitimate.Therefore, again, ask these questions before things go too far. Many states already prohibit intermarriage between close relatives, but in the case of first cousins you would need a dispensation from the Church to marry that person, as it is strongly discouraged. The process of having the Catholic Church examine whether your previous marriage(s) was/were valid isn’t difficult at all, but what you want to make sure is that your person of interest is willing to go through the process to possibly have their previous marriage(s) annulled.The response you get to these questions will go a long way to help you discern whether this is the person whom you have been called to forsake all others for. They may not believe in the process, but they don’t have to, because what is important is that you believe in it and they should respect that. I know it sounds like a ridiculous question, but you just never know in this day and age.If they don’t want to go through the process then I would take that as a red flag and walk away. The Catholic Church defines marriage as a lifelong union between one man and one woman.
It does not recognize, even as a civil marriage, a contracted relationship between persons of the same gender.